Paul wrote: ↑Mon Dec 12, 2022 11:50:20 pm
Mike wrote: ↑Mon Dec 12, 2022 11:44:12 pm
Paul wrote: ↑Mon Dec 12, 2022 11:35:48 pm
Okay man. I mean you did that multiple times. Saying how personal you felt about the stephanie thing. That was your move, trying to make people connect with you on a personal level to feel safe. It's a move, not one I would make, but it is. Hey man it's a game. But don't deny that's totally what you did. you painted James to be a bully.
I get that criticism, exploiting personal feelings and I take it in stride, you're right.
The one thing I will say about this though. Let me preface this with two things. 1. I don't think this is actually what you were doing. and 2. It's not like I expected us to do weekly zoom calls haha. But anyway, what I will say is: for the sake of other people's mental health. There are ways to exploit emotional feelings without bringing in deeply personal things. Like you saying, "because of that convo we had I just feel so close to you". Referring to a convo where I unloaded some deep shit on you. Turning that around to make me feel close to you can be a bit messy and leave people feeling a bit fucked with. You're gonna get fucked with in these games but it doesn't have to be like that. You just as easily could have connected our love for nerdy shit and called us nerd bros. But referring back to our deep convo as a reason why you wouldn't make a move against me is, in my opinion, a bit much. I still have much love for you, this comes from a good place. Just felt like it needed said.
Yeah I talk about it in one of my confessional where I knew where we went with our conversations - which were authentic by the way, I meant everything I said about the connection there man - was going to make for a heartbreaking moment for me in the season when I had to take you out. It wasn't done lightly. I had so many people who claimed allegiance to me in this game and I was really hoping to have the narrative of choosing between Hali and Steph at the end because I love those girls and it would have been dramatic as fuck.
But back to you point, it's crossing a line and I didn't feel good about it. I'm a very personable person who likes to be interested instead of interesting. I invest deeply in people, everyone - even James can attest that we talked about lots of stuff that we connected on that was unexpected.
I take the criticism on the chin because it's a fair criticism. It's not like we're playing for a million dollars. So yeah, I'll express it constantly that I am truly sorry for that to you of all people because we went to the most personal place out of anyone else in this game for me.